Checked in today to see if all was well in my community here at wordpress, and found that my own home base was invaded. Another nasty comment has exposed itself to my About page, from a dear Mr. Williams who does not blog himself, but thinks mine is, ah, what a word, “gross”. Yeah, I don’t think I’ve use this word since 1983, well, maybe once or twice, but certainly not on the occasion of describing someone’s work. He goes on to say that I am “riding on the coattails of someone who left us too soon.” If you’re new here and haven’t read my blog, the coattails I’m supposedly riding are that of the late Theresa Duncan, an iconic blogger who passed away two years ago this week. If you look at my sidebar you’ll see her. If it’s her coattails I ride, so be it. It’s been an honor, an enjoyment, an obssession, I’ve learned a lot about writing and blogging, and I’ve met many interesting people from across this country, and some out of it, that have stopped by. And if so many people have stopped by, I must be doing something right. I regret nothing.
And when the infamous non-blogger Mr. Williams says I should get my own ideas, well, quite frankly he hasn’t read much of my blog. My most popular post has been hit on nearly 1000 times and it’s about my distaste for clean coal as it relates to my life personally. It’s a brief story, to the point, and I don’t think it was Theresa’s idea. If this is what my comment enthused Mr. Williams thinks.
Like I asked some time ago: Why do people bother with the nasty words? What does it do for them? Is it some need to boost their own ego, or just a love to derail someone else, thus making themselves somehow better? I can’t figure it out. He should visit that strange dude wearing the freaky masks blog. I wonder if he’d call this gross also? I wonder if it would be as gross as mine?
My first nasty comment shook me up–and Sarcastic Bastard was a sweet Georgia peach (my favorite) and told me to keep my chin up. And I took those words to heart and have grown. So SB, should I keep that nasty on my About Page, will that toughen me up, or should I deleted the eloquent user of the word “gross”?? Should I par with a witty response (I do have one) or let it hang? Input needed here. Lisa, pipe in if you get a chance. Need an opinion. Should I keep the reminder that someone hates me or not?
And if anyone has nasty comment experience, let me know, especially if you were visited my Mr. Williams and called gross.
Peace…
The way I see it, if you look up to someone and they influence you… Well doesn’t that mean that they have left something behind, that their life influenced others; they left a mark on this world, and will not be forgotten?
I am not familiar with your blog, or Theresa Duncan’s… I think I may have to become familiar with them…
But if you looked up to her, I would take it as a compliment… That will REALLY annoy Mr. Williams… Don’t let him get to you… If you have your witty quip and it doesn’t sound hurt, or too narky, then go ahead…
This guy is what the ‘delete’ button was designed for….by all means use it Jenn! I see your site only in part as a tribute, with plenty of your own style and imprint on it! If you can block further comments from him, do it. I look forward to your posts, as I’m sure many others do as well.
Lisa
Thanks so much Lisa! I was just typing my witty par but you have a point. Further comments won’t block will they? I had thought of that…but you know you just want to say something sometimes…Thanks again Lisa. Look forward to your new posts too!
Peace…Jenn
My Dear Jenn,
I would probably tear the commenter a new butthole, but that’s me. I always feel like respectful, well thought out criticism is one thing, but name calling and rudeness is another thing entirely. If criticism is respectul, I will reply in kind. If not, I go into attack mode. And after that, I just delete future comments by the rude commentor. That’s why, unfortunately, I had to start screening my comments–because some dumb ass conservative Christian wrote (about 100 times) that I should BURN IN HELL. I let him have it in a return comment. I told him in no uncertain terms that I would be deleting his future comments and then did just that.
After all, it’s your blog, my dear. Your blog, your world. The content (including comments) is one of the few things we can control in this life.
Chin up. Love you.
SB
Thanks SB!
I knew I could count on you.
Love ya too.
Jenn