“I just read a blog post about why sending someone a “wink” on a dating Web site is stupid. This seemed like a reasonable argument to make. But then the blog writer went on to say that in real life, it is “totally unacceptable” to wink. The guy said that if you wink at a stranger in a bar, the stranger would call the police. Is that true? Or is it sometimes OK to wink (in real life)? Should I save it for specific situations? (Which ones?) —Georgia
You should believe only half of what you read on the Internet. To my knowledge, winking is neither illegal nor actionable in any county that permits the sale of alcoholic beverages. (I haven’t surveyed the rest.) Like the eye-roll, the wink is a gesture of complicity. Between friends, it means you share a secret. Between strangers, it means you wish you had a secret to share. You should—you must!—wink whenever the spirit moves you.”
Personally I’ve always found a wink quite alluring, and not really a sexual overture, but just a little indication that the person who sent the wink is on the same page, or shares in your mindset. Calling the police when winked at? The person doing the calling would have to be mentally unstable I’d say, just a bit too sensitive, or simply in need of more attention. Here, Here! I’m a believer in the wink! Any winking thoughts?
Image: Winking Girl by Camilladerrico