Photo: Mj Rains, The Wit Continuum
I have accepted fear as a part of life – specifically the fear of change…
I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back.
– Erica Jong
Simply love the graphic artwork by illustrator Alexey Kurbatov.
Some women love to wait for life, for a ring in the June light, for a touch of the sun to heal them, for another woman’s voice to make them whole, to untie their hands, put words in their mouths, form to their passages, sound to their screams, for some other sleeper to remember their future, their past.
Some women wait for themselves around the next corner and call the empty spot peace, but the opposite of living is only not living, and the stars do not care.
Some women wait for something to change, and nothing does change, so they change themselves.
from Stations (1986) by Audre Lorde (1934-1992)
Image: My Twilight Dream
“Life is a journey, not the destination…
I believe that it is more joyful to embrace and be in the journey than to assume you’ll ever ‘arrive’.”
Great words from the wonderful actress Jane Fonda. Whether a fan or not, Jane’s book My Life So Far is a cascading story of how she made it as an actress, life with her fascinating husbands, studies of the interesting people she met along the way (Simone de Beauvoir!) and, more importantly, she shares what it is to be a woman on a journey to herself, an ongoing journey in one’s life, no matter what your title or ambition or career choice may be.
This is especially interesting. She sees a woman as having different ages, or stages in life I’d say, in which “Cycles of Change” occur, where a woman finds random experiences and learns to grow from them. She coincides this cycle to the acts of a play or movie script with which the climax and ending are only the beginning of finding your true self. Keep in mind, she wrote this book after she turned 60 years old.
ACT 1: Gathering ages 1 – 30
ACT 2: Seeking ages 30 – 60
ACT 3: Beginning age 60 – and beyond
” ……a girl can lose touch with herself, her body, and have to struggle – hard- to get herself, her voice, back. Also, I believe that change can be a good thing, if you are fully in each phase and if the changes represent growth.”
“Denial can be a pathology or a survival mechanism–sometimes both.”
“I had just entered my second act, and as far as I could tell, my life had peaked and was on the decline….Okay, so I was wrong. My life didn’t peak, nor was it on a decline.”
The alchemy of a changing life is the only truth.”